A friend recommended this to me and I was intrigued because it was written by a professor at NAU and it was about a murder that occurred in the Grand Canyon the year I took a river rafting tour there.
The author is the Southwestern editor for Backpacker magazine. In 2006 when a young Japanese woman was murdered at Havasupai Falls she investigated and discovered the woman's story and that of her killer, a Havasupai young man. Their three lives are intertwined by their shared childhood experiences despite growing up in very different cultures.
"...children living in abusive or neglectful homes come up with a survival strategy that allows them to feel loved and cared for by the parent--or at the very least to feel that they are not going to be annihilated by the parent. But what is actually parenting the child is the survival strategy. I [the author] was parented b dissociation. Tomomi was parented by isolation. Randy was parented by violence. The survival strategies that raised us became our oeprating systems for functioning in the world--not only as children, but as adults."
[Adult Children of Alcoholics program]..expanded to heal the disease of family dysfunction. The term "adult child," according to the official program literature, refers to someone who "meet the demands of adult life with survival techniques learned as children."
It was a powerful read that illuminated the impact of a hurtful childhood.
Published: 2017 Read: August 2020 Genre: History
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